男人不坏女人不爱，如何才能成为一个坏男人？（一） [美国媒体]

Women are attracted to bad boys，How can I act like or be a bad boy？

男人不坏女人不爱，如何才能成为一个坏男人？



Will Chou
You see a hot girl talk about how they likeall these traits in a guy (kind, caring, smart, doesn’t have to be muscular or rich, doesn’t smoke, doesn’t drink, hardworking, blah blah blah)…
THEN you see her update her Facebookprofile to “in a relationship” and it’s some guy whois rich and muscular, a hot hunk, and someone who is an inconsiderate assholebecause you’ve met him in personbefore.
You have a lot of what she SAYS she wants … yet she ignores it all and goes for some jerk who is missing somequalities you worked so hard for AND mistreating her. Yet she’s putting up with it.
Let’s stop listening to women’s dating advice and what they say they like. That’s gotten us nowhere. They don’t know what they’re talkingabout and there are plenty of real world examples to prove it.
The truth is that their conscious mind isdoing their best to rationalize their own theories about how their geneticsact.
Attraction is not a conscious choice. It’s a genetic reaction — one they can’t control.
So instead of just wasting time, let’s go to what they actually like. Who and what they actually act on.
Delete any dating advice from a women andgo straight to who and what type of guy your ideal women is actually dating andthat will tell the real story.
To be honest, I was an arrogant prick of anice guy and most “nice guys” are. We’re not reallynice. We’re only nice to getsomething out of someone. We’re not reallythat kind or caring or smart or any of that. That’s one reason we aren’t there.
But not the only one. Looks and fashion dohelp — there’s no denying that nomatter how many women say no. Just look at who they date.
How to be a bad boy in the right way.
You’re smart. You realize that there’s a right and wrong way of being a bad boy. Not all bad boys get thegirls. Some crash and burn and suck at life behind the scenes.
You probably want a more science-backedanswer to how to do it so I’ll give youone:
As the science nerd I am, I’ve studied the evolutionary biological reason for why d-bags andassholes reign supreme. After a lot of research, here’s what I found:
The Right Amount of Assertiveness andAgreeableness (The Tender Defender)
What the heck does this mean? Everyone hastried to be an asshole or nice guy at some point to impress girls. Both are tooextreme and backfire. By being the right amount of kindness andassertiveness,you become the perfect attractive blend (the tender defender).
Don’t believe this is attractive? Look at the male lead in any romancenovel. He is protective, kind, and assertive rather than cowardly or rude.
Agreeableness
The scientific definition for this is:
‘Social interest’ that is displayed through co-operation, empathy and identificationwith others, and the striving for intimacy, camaraderie, and selflessness.–Braun & Bryan 2006
A simpler definition may be kindness,cooperation, and empathy.
You might think agreeableness is B.S. butthere are plenty of studies that have found this personality factor as a keyindicator for attraction, especially for longer term relationships.
Women list kindness as one of the mostdesired traits in a boyfriend, but guys misinterpret what that means. They getthe details wrong. Kindness is not the same as not standing up for yourself.You can be nice and still voice your opinion when people mistreat you.
Why is Agreeableness Attractive?
Females evolved to favor men who are more kindand empathetic because they are less selfish, violent, deceitful, narcissistic,and likely to cheat, abuse, neglect children, and kill children if they turnout to be illegitimate (a common act for our ancestors). Also, because they getalong better, more able to resolve conflicts, more likely to respond toproblems, create kids that are easier to raise, accumulate resources in asociety that requires cooperation.
But then why aren’t all men evolved to be nice by now? Probably because there areother factors at play:
Some men fathered kids through deception,force, or bribery.
During harsh war conditions, women may havetraded off the preference for kindness for stronger men to survive.
Women are attracted to reasonable amountsof:
Empathy
Generosity
Self-sacrifice
Thoughtfulness
But only when it is warranted. Back off ifshe tells you she doesn’t want it. Anexample of an act women adore would be a man helping a man who just got hit bya car because it shows signs of a good partner and husband.
How to improve your kindness
You will genetically get more kind as youmove past your teenage years, but there are exercises you can do to improve itnow:
Take care of a pet or volunteer at animalshelters, zoos, farms, or pet stores because it will teach you how to be carefor someone else.
Take care of children. Reconnecting withsiblings or nephews is one way. You can help with homework, look after them atplaygrounds, or feed them. Studies show that women are especially attracted toguys holding babies or demonstrating child-care skills.
Mentor young people. You may not be asuperstar but you can still be a role model to someone younger and women willrespect that.
Care for the sick, injured, or old. The RedCross offers cheap, fast certification courses in CPR, first aid, pet care, andother medical skills. You could also volunteer in a retirement home orhospital.
Learn and improve your empathy fromentertainment. Expose yourself to a variety of people of different genders andages in any form of fictional stories to understand emotions like tragedy,sadness, or loss.
How to show your kindness (and why itmatters that you do)
If you do not show attractive traits youdevelop, women will assume you do not have them. Here’s how you can show your kindness:
Project warmth by smiling, making eyecontact, using humor, playfulness, and nonsexual touch. You could also showphotos of you laughing with friends, hugging family, or taking care of a petfor online dating profiles.
Show real interest. Be curious about whatthey have to say and what interests her rather than just wait for your chanceto talk.How to test this. You may think you showed interest but did you really?After a date, try to list five facts you learned about her. If you can’t, you didn’t show enoughinterest.
Show you do not take life too seriouslywith moderate amounts of self-deprecating humor.Poke fun at yourself. But notso much that you come off as serious and low self-esteem.
Show empathic ability, dedication, andkindness to others. Tip the waiter generously. Give a some money to homelesspeople. Or show that you care about a charity, cause, or the environment withwhat you buy (eco-friendly soap) or what events you attend (charity). You don’t have to spend a lot of money or go crazy with it. (Note: I had tochime in here. The soap stuff seems like B.S. to me. That seems like asuper-fringe level of kindness that goes unnoticed 99% of the time despite yourbest efforts. Rather, make sure you treat people kind when she is more likelyto notice.)
Stay kind and considerate when you aresexually aroused. When turned on, men become less kind and do rude, creepy,exploitative, or violent things before a women wants to. Showing restraint canshow off your empathy.
Mention that you volunteer (but not tooearly on or in a braggadocious way). It’s hard to pretend that you care when you go every week.
Develop a reputation for being generous tostrangers, friends, the earth, society, and/or family. Give thoughtful giftsand help others without asking for anything back.
Assertiveness
Women want men who are assertive but inways that protect, not threaten, them. Assertiveness means being protective,decisive, and formidable. It’s aboutstanding up against unfair offers or treatment.
Why Is Assertiveness Attractive?
Aggressiveness and dominance are heritableand helpful to a man’s success(unless it is so extreme that you become a bully). Men had to be violent enoughto kill animals to feed their family and strong enough to protect them fromnatural disasters, predators, rival tribes, and the mentally ill.
Women find dominance more attractive thanphysical attractiveness. Their attraction to assertiveness intensifies rightbefore ovulation, where they are especially attracted to dominant, assertivemen who speak in a deep voice and have a masculine build.
Women rate protective men, especially inromantic rather than work settings, very attractive. Risk-taking is attractiveto women, especially in short-term mating, because it shows you are willing toput yourself out there to protect a women.
How to Improve Your Assertiveness
Develop practical real-world skills thatdeal with traditional obstacles of life. This will improve your protectiveness,hardiness, and formidability. Examples include: learning how to run, climb,swim, sail, fly, use power tools, repair, survive in the wild, start fires,track, evade, navigate, read a map, or pick locks.
Learn self-defense. It’s hard to show verbal confidence in threatening situations if you donot have the physical skills to back it up. Learning martial arts in the modernworld is more to cultivate the confidence to know that you could win a fightrather than to actually get into fights. Women can read if you can actuallyfight and defend them based on your confidence (unless you are a great actor,which is tough).
There are many different martials arts.Choose a practical one that actually helps in real fights. This could be kravmaga, which is focused on surviving against weapons. Or it could be MMA,Brazilian jiu-jitsu, wrestling, or Muay Thai. Taekwondo might be avoidedbecause it’s more for show thanpractical use.
How to Have The Right Amount ofAssertiveness
Be dominant, protective, and decisive… but not to an extreme level. Make sure your risk-taking is aboutprotection rather than immaturity and endangering your life or health. It’s not just about having the ability to defend someone. It’s about having the ability to do it effectively and decisively whenneeded.
Show that you are willing to punish,ostracize, or stigmatize people who deserve it. Make sure you have that ability(study martial arts for example).
Do not be overly protective to the extreme,especially when they do not need or want your protection.This can be a turnoff,especially in the modern world. Don’t be overly possessive or assume she cannot take care of herself insituations she can.
Honestly, it’s hard. It’s a delicatebalance. What appears protective to one girl could be overbearing to another.You have to be able to assess if something is a real threat and accurately readthe reaction of the woman.
How to Display Assertiveness
Use nonverbal behavior. Take up more space,put your arms out, legs apart, project competence, vigilance, andformidability.
Make decisions quickly and get tasks done.Our ancestors had to act fast because if you did not, you were killed bypredators. Showcase your fast decision making. This could be something assimple as deciding and ordering drinks for everyone quickly in a noisy bar.
Be sexually dominant. Shows aggressiveability and confidence especially for women embarrassed to ask for it.
Play sports. Aggressive sports showdominance and athletic skill in combat and warfare.
Women perceive athletes as more energetic,ambitious, and competitive (and therefore more attractive).
Dance (with energy). The energy you displaywhen dancing displays your formidability.
(I had to chime in here and also suggestverbal ways. In the office or your personal life, stand up for yourself whensomeone is mistreating you. Start small.)
The Truth About Nice Guys and Assholes(Exposing Misconceptions)
When most people think of the wordkindness, they think of the “nice guy” who never gets the girl. In reality, these nice guys arepeople-pleasers who will do anything for a girl no matter how badly she treatsyou. Also, they are often only nice when it helps them (I recommend the book NoMore Mr. Nice Guy if this is you).
When people think about assertiveness, theymay think of the “asshole” who seems to always get the girl despite being rude. They assume thatwomen are attracted to the rude behavior. But this is wrong. Women are turnedoff by the rude behavior, but put up with it because of other attractivetraits, like assertiveness and physique.
You should be assertive and stand up foryourself or someone else who is unjustly being mistreated because it is theright thing to do and it’s attractive.But avoided being overly rude.
Nice guys are kind, which is attractive.But they lack assertiveness, which is not attractive. Assholes are rude, whichis not attractive. But they often they make up for it with assertiveness (andother attractive traits).
How to Combine Kindness and Assertivenessthe Right Wayto Become a “Tender Defender”
In any relationship with a women, you willprobably be in the tender mode 95% of the time and the defender only 5%. Howyou display yourself in the 5% will determine more of her attraction than the95%.
Avoid the dark side of assertiveness andkindness. Do these instead:
As hinted at earlier, there are traitsmistaken for assertiveness and kindness that you should avoid. They are oftenextreme forms. Avoid these because they repulse girls:
Cowardice
Submissiveness
Indecisiveness
Passivity
Narcissism
Instead, be:
Empathic
Protective
Generous
Confident
Decisive
Ready for the unexpected
Here is a Real World Practice to Put itinto Practice
You go on a dinner date. You make sure shegets the seat with the better view she always likes to demonstrate empathy. Youlet her order and you are decisively quick in your order. In fact, you chose whereto eat quickly rather than play the endless “I don’t know. What do youwant to eat?” game.
The server brings the wrong food and spillsit on her dress. You picture the three choices you have:
An overly submissive “nice guy” would donothing because he is scared of making a scene. Your date interprets this as “not courageous enough to protect me” or “does not care about me.” She says she is happy eating the wrong dish but is actuallyresentful.
An overly aggressive “asshole” would be tooaggressive too early. He blows up as if sewage was sprayed onto his wife’s wedding dress. Rather than uating and deciding on an approach,he curses out the server, pushes him around, yells for a manager, and escalatesthe confrontation too much. Your date may at first be impressed by thedecisiveness, but quickly realizes you are more focused on (and controlled by)your rage than her protection.
A tender defender politely but assertivelygets the problem fixed. He assesses how his date feels. Is she willing to waitfor the right order? Does she want the restaurant to pay for her dress? Hemakes sure the server is aware of his mistake without losing face and suggestsways of correcting the errors in accordance with her feelings. It may be towait for the order if she is okay with it or to ask for a free dessert ascompensation. He might realize that she feels unattractive with the stains andassures her she looks gorgeous still.
You intelligently choose option three.
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你会看到一个辣妹谈论她们是如何喜欢一个男人的所有这些特质（善良、体贴、聪明、不一定肌肉发达或富有、不吸烟、不喝酒、努力工作等等）……然后，你看到她更新她的脸书个人资料到“约会中”，而她的男友也很富有，很有肌肉，是一个性感十足的壮汉，但却是不体谅的混蛋，因为你以前就见过他本人。
你有很多她说过她想要的东西，但她忽略了这一切，傍上了一些物质条件好的混蛋，而且就这样为自己的人生做了主。我们不要再听女人的约会建议和她们喜欢说的话了。这让我们摸不着头脑。她们根本不知道自己在说些什么，有很多现实世界的例子可以证明这一点。

吸引力不是一个有意识的选择，而是天生的。所以，与其浪费时间，不如让我们来看看他们到底喜欢什么。他说：“我认为，这是一个非常重要的问题，我认为，我们应该在这个问题上采取行动。”不要相信任何一个女人的约会建议，她们会直接告诉你理想中的女人真正的约会对象是哪种类型的男人，你会得到真实的答案。老实说，我是一个傲慢的老实人，大多数"好人"一样，我们只会从别人索取一点点东西。
如何以正确的方式成为一个坏男人。你很聪明。你知道做一个坏小子有对有错。不是所有的坏男人都能得到女孩的芳心。有些人会在私下崩溃、燃烧、浪费生命。你可能想要一个更多的科学的答案来说明如何做到这一点，所以我会给你一个答案：作为一个理工科的书呆子，我已经研究了进化生物学的原因，为什么混蛋能统治到至高无上的女神？经过大量的研究，我发现：



但只有在有正当理由的时候才可以。如果她告诉你她不想要，你就撤退。女人很喜欢的一个例子是一个男人帮助一个刚被车撞了的男人，因为这显示了一个好伴侣和丈夫的品质。
如何改善你的仁慈性格。当十几岁的时候，你的天性会变得更加善良，但是现在你可以做一些练习来改善它：
在动物收容所、动物园、农场或宠物店照顾宠物或志愿者，因为这将教会你如何照顾别人。照顾孩子。与兄弟姐妹或侄子重新联系是一种好的方式。你可以帮助他们做作业，在游乐场照顾他们，或者喂他们吃东西。研究表明，女性特别喜欢抱孩子或展示育儿技巧的男性。

指导年轻人。你可能不是超级明星，但你仍然可以成为年轻的人的榜样，女性会尊重这一点。
照顾病人、伤员或老人。红十字会提供廉价、快速的CPR认证课程，急救、宠物护理和其他医疗技能。你也可以在养老院或医院做志愿者。从娱乐中学习和提高你的移情能力。在任何形式的虚构故事中，向不同性别和年龄的人展示你自己，以理解像悲剧、悲伤或失落这样的情感。

如何表达你的善意（以及为什么你这么做很重要）。如果你没有表现出你所培养出的吸引人的特质，女人会认为你没有这些特质。下面是你如何表达你的善意：
通过微笑、眼神交流、幽默、玩乐和非性接触来投射温暖。你也可以展示你和朋友一起笑的照片，拥抱家人的照片，或者在网上约会时照顾宠物的照片。
表现出真正的兴趣。要对他们说的话和她感兴趣的事情感到好奇，而不是仅仅等待你说话的机会。如何测试这个准则。你可能认为你表现出了兴趣，但你真的这么认为吗？约会之后，试着列举你了解的关于她的五个事实。如果你不能，那就说明你没有表现出足够的兴趣。

用适度的自嘲和幽默来显示你对生活的重视。嘲笑你自己。但并不是你表现得那么严肃和自卑。对他人表现出同情心、奉献精神和仁慈。给服务员慷慨的小费。给无家可归的人一些钱。或者通过购买什么（环保肥皂）或参加什么活动（慈善）来表明你对慈善事业、事业或环境的关心。你不必花很多钱，也不必为此疯狂。（注意：我得在这里按门铃。在我看来，慈善肥皂这些东西像是狗屎.。这似乎是一个超级边缘级的仁慈，尽管你尽了最大的努力，却没有被注意到99%的时间。你要确保，在她更可能注意到你的时候对别人好一点。



具有支配性、保护性和决定性但不要到一个极端的程度确保你的冒险是关于保护，而不是不成熟和危及你的生命或健康。这不仅仅是保护一个人的能力。这是关于有能力在需要的时候有效和果断地做到这一点。
表明你愿意惩罚、排斥或羞辱那些值得你这样做的人。确保你有这种能力（例如学习武术）。不要过分保护，特别是当他们不需要或不想要你的保护。这可能是一个障碍，特别是在现代世界。别过于占有欲强，或者认为她在自己力所能及的情况下无法照顾自己。
老实说，这很难。这是一种微妙的平衡。对一个女孩似乎是保护的可能是傲慢的另一个极端。你必须能够评估某事是否是真正的威胁，并准确地解读女人的反应。
如何表现出自信。

使用非语言行为。占据更多的空间，伸出你的手臂，分开你的双腿，项目能力，警惕和可成形性。
快速做决定，完成任务。我们的祖先必须快速行动因为如果你不这么做，你就会被掠食者杀死。展示你的快速决策。这可能是一些简单的事情，决定和订购饮料每个人快速在一个嘈杂的酒吧。
在性方面占主导地位。特别是对于那些不好意思开口的女人来说。

运动。在战斗和战争中，激进的运动表现出支配地位和运动技巧。
女性认为运动员更有活力，更有雄心，更有竞争力（因此更有吸引力）。
跳舞(充满活力)当你跳舞时，你所展现的能量会显示出你的可成形性。
（我必须在这里提出口头建议。在办公室或你的私人生活中，当有人虐待你的时候，站出来为自己辩护。从小的开始。

关于好人和混蛋的真相（揭露错误观念）。
当大多数人想到“善良”这个词时，他们就会想到“好人”，而“好人”却从来没有得到过女孩。在现实生活中，这些好人是令人愉快的人，他们会为一个女孩做任何事，不管她对你有多坏。而且，他们通常只有在对他们有帮助的时候才会表现得很好（如果是你，我建议不要再让这本书成为好人了）。

当人们想到自信的时候，他们可能会想到一个“混蛋”，尽管粗鲁，但她似乎总能得到那个女孩。他们认为女人被粗鲁的行为所吸引。但这是错误的。女人会对粗鲁的行为感到厌烦，但也会因为其他吸引人的特质而忍受，比如自信和体格。
你应该自信，为你自己或别人站出来，因为这是正确的事情，这是吸引人的。但避免过分粗鲁。

好人都很善良，很有吸引力。但他们缺乏自信，这是没有吸引力的。混蛋是粗鲁的，这是不吸引人的。但他们常常以自信（和其他吸引人的品质）来弥补。
如何将善良和自信结合起来成为“温柔的捍卫者”的正确途径。在与女性的任何关系中，你很可能处于95%的前锋时间和后卫时间只有5%的。你如何表现自己的5%将决定比95%对她有更多的吸引力。
避免自信和善良的阴暗面。做这些代替行动：
正如前面暗示的，有些特质被误认为是你应该避免的自信和善良。他们往往是极端的形式。避免这些，因为他们拒绝这样的女孩：



Anonymous
I was the bad boy and what you’re trying to make is a mistake.
Let me explain why.
Most girls in their 20s and even 30s havesome kind of masculine ideal. This ideal is anything but healthy. They want thesociopath or the aggressive jerk or whatever is considered nowadays a goodrepresentation of masculinity.
The definition of a “good masculine sexual partner” is more of what you’d find in “Fight Club” than “Breakfast At Tiffany”. And yes, Iwas one of them. I acted as a jerk, I was emotionally imbalanced, I got into alot of arguments and fights and I was emotionally and physically violent.
And this got me laid. A lot. The fact thatmy life was chaotic and broken, ironically, made a lot of very beautiful womanwant to save me.
And here’s the thing …
If you want to screw your emotionalbalance, make your life a mess and be in that position for the sake of gettinglaid you are an idiot. This is because the “bad boy” image thatworks to get women turned on is kind of the opposite of what works in everyother area of life.
Everywhere else consistency, maturity,dignity, integrity are rewarded. In the business world nobody will put up withthe “bad boy” bullshit. In the academic world the same. Most realms of life are ameritocracy where your hard work and effort are going to get you what youdeserve. Dating is one of the few fields in which the least you care and themore counter-intuitive you act, the better results you’re going to get.
But it is not worth it.
This is because while being a bad boy mayget you female attention, being a bad boy is generally not a good life strategyand there is a LOT MORE to life than getting laid. I remember how at some pointin my life I was an emotional mess, smoking, drinking, going in bars eachnight, sleeping with two girls at the same time (not in the same bed) and manypeople were “admiring me”.
In reality, I was crying out of frustrationand desperation often because I was in a hole and no one was pulling me out.While I was getting girls to take off their panties, I had no money, mybusiness partners wanted nothing to do with me, my friends who showed integrityand character have been replaced by superficial relationships and the futurelooked really bleak.
So honestly, what you want is the mostimmature thing you can do.
Trust me, treating life as a bad-boy (and I’m not talking about buying a leather jacket but actually being a “I-Don’t-Give-A-Damn” type of person) has a far higher downside than upside. While thereare always going to be ladies who will (1) want to save you from yourself (2)think they can change you (3) be attracted because you’re different, the people who don’t want to have sex with you won’t really be impressed by what you’re doing.
So here’s my advice.
Act as a man and stop trying to emulate thedysfunctional bad-boy image. The rogue, the sociopath, the psychopath, the outof control wreck are and were always female fantasies for better or for worsebut actually being one sucks.
Instead simply focus on acting as a man.The same traits that you consider boring nice, as a nice guy, are exactly thetraits required to succeed in most fields. I’m not saying to be a wimp but I’m saying that being dysfunctional for the sake of mediocre sex(because deep inside you’ll always knowthat that’s not love but ratherfascination) is a very bad trade-of.

我就是个坏男人，你所做的一切都是错误的。让我解释一下为什么。
大多数20多岁甚至30岁的女孩都有某种男性的特质。她们想要成为反社会的人，激进的混蛋，或任何现在被认为是男性的好代表的东西。
“好的男性性伴侣”的定义更多的是“搏击俱乐部”而不是“蒂芬尼早餐会”。是的，我是其中之一。我表现得像个混蛋，我的情绪很不平衡，我陷入了很多争论和争吵，我的情绪和身体都很暴力。这让我得到了奠定。很多。事实上我的生活是混乱和破碎的，讽刺的是，这让很多非常漂亮的女人想要救我于水火之中。



Timi Gleason
The thing that is boring about nice guys isthat they are following a role; they are following someone else's rules. Theirparents are still in their heads. They lack humanity and humanity is notperfect. They are under-developed emotionally and socially because they havenot been testing what they were taught. Nice boys looking to make a transitionto bad boy, need to break out of this right-wrong box.
Bad boys are frequently passionate aboutsomething. They have experimented with life, and they are MEN…not mommy's good boy.
They know how to take risks; they recoverfrom failures; they read books (or learn) how to romance women; they havestories and experiences to tell. They are interesting and more self- assured.Asian men: think Jackie Chan. Each group has examples and they don't have to behoodlums or extremists like Dennis Rodman. But they do take chances and theypush the confines of social behavioral norms.
Nice guys are good BOYS. Bad guys arebudding MEN. It doesn't mean they are illegal or criminals. But it likely meansthat they experimented beyond what their family (especially their mother) toldthem is acceptable. Bad boys are more worldly. And they usually understand howto relate to women. Learn what makes women happy. Look for a mature,responsible woman who will “partner” (align) with you and have your back (and vice versa).
It wouldn't be that hard to change. I knewa very conservative-appearing accountant who married a stripper. Some doctorstravel a lot to exotic or “bad boy” places (New Orleans, Vegas) to enjoy the food, the show's, and theaction. Computer guys who are into fantasy games or exotic worlds. Masters oflove making. Musical experiences. Something that makes them exotic and erotic.Even privately kinky.
Women want a man who is gutsy and extremeabout something that will includes them as “their goddess”. Even if she'sa goddess biker babe on the back of his Harley. Or a goddess mom of theirinternational brood of adopted children. Maybe you two have a Love Shack on theproperty for romantic escapes from the kids.
Good at math? Compete in contests or poker.Like Pearl Jam: travel to their back-to-back concerts for a week. Is youfavorite group appearing in Vegas? Leave work at 4:00, hop on a plane, go tothe concert, spend the night there, and show up by ten to work the next day.Like camping…go to other states,other countries. Mix it up. Be a good story teller. Catholic? Go visit all theinternational/ historical cathedrals or the California Missions but the in someadventurous mode of travel, or special romantic hotels, or add photography toit.

好人的无聊之处在于，他们是在追随某个角色；他们是在遵循别人的规则。他们父母的影子还在他们的脑子里。他们缺乏个性，个性不完美。他们在情感和社交方面发展不足，因为他们没有在测试自己所学的东西。想要向坏男人过渡的好孩子，需要从这个错误的盒子里跳出来。
坏男人经常对某事充满激情。他们尝试过生活，他们是男人……不是妈妈的好孩子。
他们知道如何冒险；他们从失败中恢复过来；他们读书（或学习）如何和女人浪漫；他们有故事和经验可以讲。他们是有趣的，更自信的。亚洲男人：想想成龙。每个团体都有自己的例子，他们不必像丹尼斯罗德曼那样成为流氓或极端分子。但他们会抓住机会，他们会打破社会行为规范。

好人都是好孩子。坏人是萌芽中的男人。这并不意味着他们是非法的或罪犯。但这可能意味着他们的实验超出了他们的家庭（尤其是他们的母亲）所能接受的范围。坏男人更世俗。他们通常懂得如何与女人相处。学习怎样才能让女人快乐。寻找一个成熟、负责任的女人，她会和你“结盟”，支持你（反之亦然）。
这不是很难改变的。我认识一个很保守的会计他娶了个脱衣舞女一些医生经常旅行到异国或“坏男人”的地方（新奥尔良，拉斯维加斯），享受美食，表演和行动。电脑迷们喜欢幻想游戏或异国情调的世界。做爱的大师。音乐经历.一些让他们充满异国情调的东西。即使私下里也很古怪。

女人希望男人有勇气且干脆利落，这将包括把她们作为“他们的女神”。即使她是个骑自行车的女神，在他的哈雷摩托后面。或者是他们跨国收养孩子的女神妈妈。也许你们俩在房子里有个爱情小屋可以用来逃避孩子们的浪漫
数学好吗？在比赛或扑克比赛。像珍珠果酱：旅行到他们的背对背音乐会一个星期。你最喜欢的组出现在拉斯维加斯？4:00下班，跳上飞机，去听音乐会，在那里过夜，第二天10点准时上班。比如露营去其他的州，其他的国家混合起来。做一个好的讲故事的人。天主教徒？去参观所有的国际/历史大教堂或是加州的传教区，除了一些冒险的旅行方式，或是特殊的浪漫酒店，或是加入摄影。

Anonymous
I doubt if being a "bad boy" canbe faked but if you want to know how here's my rules to be "bad boy101"
1) Abad boy loves being himself & his life... cause it sucks to be anyone elsebut you
2) Don't ALWAYS be an asshole... Many"bad boys" are very charismatic and people like them. The smartest "bad boys" have peopletalking them up to people instead of trashing them
3) Bad boys are Alpha males. Don't take shit from anyone (Particularly awoman) because you're always right and they're always wrong... no exceptions...always get the last word and NEVER EVER UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES SAY YOU'RESORRY
4) Bad boys are convinced people need them more than they need anyoneelse... I don't care if it's a friend, or the hottest piece of ass on theplanet... don't be afraid to leave ifyou don't get what you want or are bored
5) Fuck with peoples heads now andthen... blowing people off at random& weird times is a good way to get their attention & keep themguessing... even if it means stranding someone
5) Be financially self reliant... but don't spend your money on anyone else
6) Know how money works and talk aboutit... Get a subscription to IMDB and read books about money
7) You have to be convinced anything you do is great
8) Be an attention grabber... You don'thave to have the most expensive wardrobe or drive a Porsche but bad boys thatdrive beaters or fuel efficient cars and dress like shit are just assholelosers
9) Never pick up the phone when people call you and rarely call them back
10) Never be on time
11) Don't sweat the small stuff &always be calm... pick and chose your battles and don't let someone else'sbullshit drive your actions. Ifsomeone's being an asshole, don't be scared to let them know but don't fightwith them. Cause bad boys don't debateor argue with losers
12) Don't take anything anyone else saysserious and poke fun at them and whatever their doing. Say everything with a smile and if they getmad act like their a defensive jerk and laugh it off.
13) Be well read... cause a stupid bad boyis just a dumb ass that thinks he's cool
14) Make sure you know out of the way coolplaces to go and hang out at or are going places that make people jealous
15) Have at least one hobby consideredcool... riding a motorcycle (if you geta bike.... never ever ever ever give an ugly or fat chick a ride on it anddon't be scared to tell them no), martial arts, snowboarding, etc and make surepeople know you do it
16) Don't be scared to meet people... causewhat good is being a bad boy if no one knows who you are?
17) Have a shit load of hot femalefriends... cause bad boys don't hang out with ugly chicks. Having a lot of hot female friends probablygot me laid more than anything else. Certain chicks, particularly hot ones, tend to get competitive over aguys attention when they seem him with a lot of other hot chicks.
18) Be in shape... you don't have tonecessarily be hugely muscular but you sure as shit can't be fat
19) Large expensive tattoo's don't hurt...cheap weird random ones do though
20) You don't need an expensive apartmentor house (Although it is best) but you can't have shitty or beat up furniturein it and it must be immaculate... causebad boys aren't slobs
21) Talk yourself up but never be a braggart... You don't want to let peoplein on everything you're up too. Justenough to let them know you're cooler than they are. Bad boys that drone on and on endlessly abouttheir shit are just boring assholes
22) NEVER stay in one place long enough foranyone to figure you out or out stay your welcome... Cause bad boys always havea better place to be. Doing somysteriously without telling anyone when you're leaving or where you're goingis a good way to get their attention too.
23) Never be scared to let a chick know youwant to fuck her... but stay in control of yourself... there's ways of flirtingto let a woman know this without come off like a horny out of control douchebag
24) Learn how to fuck... cause bad boys aregreat lays
25) After you fuck a chick... don't bescared to ditch out soon afterwards or tell them they can't sleep over... badboys don't cuddle
26) Don't let a chick think she's in chargecause she's got a pussy. Blow a chickoff once in a while keeps them guessing. A lot of women stop thinking you're a "bad boy" and startthinking your an idiot as soon as they think they're in charge cause you wantto fuck them. Blowing them off is the #1way to let them know they aren't in charge. And when you talk to them don't offer them any explanation, and DON'TAPOLOGIZE IF THEY'RE ANGRY.
27) Don't be scared to tell your buddies you fucked a chick. When you tell them don't be scared to put thechick down. The hotter the chick is, themore important it is no one thinks you're into her.
28) Always ignore the hottest chick in the room
29) If you do wind up talking to the hottest chick in the room... don't bescared to criticize her (Do it in front of her girlfriends cause they probablyhate her anyway)... and if she gets pissed off just stay cool, smirk, and tellher to relax and enjoy yourself
30) Don't let people see you do somethingyou're bad at... Like if you suck at basketball... don't get into a game wherepeople can say how bad you were at it
31) Handle your liquor & never get outof control drunk
32) Never be afraid to impose yourself on people... Don't be scared to tellpeople where YOU want to eat or drink at and if people don't want to go therethen let them know it's not worth your time
33) ALWAYS make eye contact
34) Make sure you have a firm handshake
35) Bad boys are perfectionists... and expect perfection out the peoplearound them
36) Find a good dentist and see him regularly
37) Don't hang out with losers or guys withnothing to lose with women like married guys. If you manage to change your image and start to be successful withwomen, you will cause some of your less successful friends a resentment. Losers, and a lot of married guys, or guyswith girlfriends (Not all), will do their best to cock block you and making youlook bad in front of everyone.... Especially women.
38) Don't be afraid to let people knowyou're mad or disappointed in them... bad boys don't talk it out
39) Don't talk about your feelings... causebad boys don't have them
40) NEVER explain yourself or what you doto anyone



14.确保你知道有哪些地方很酷，可以去，可以在哪些地方闲逛，或者哪些地方会让人嫉妒；
15.至少有一个被认为很酷的爱好：骑摩托车（如果你有自行车…永远不要让一个丑陋或肥胖的小鸡骑上它，不要害怕告诉他们不，武术，滑雪板等，并确保人们知道你做到了；
16.不要害怕认识别人……如果没人知道你是谁，做个坏小子又有什么用呢？
17.有一大堆火辣的女性朋友……因为坏男人不和丑女孩混在一起。有很多火辣的女性朋友可能比什么都能让我上床。某些小鸡，特别是性感的小鸡，当它们看起来像他和很多其他辣妹在一起时，就会比男人的注意力更有竞争力。

18.保持身材……你不一定要肌肉发达，但你肯定不能太胖；
19.大块昂贵的纹身没什么坏处……不过廉价的奇怪的纹身是随机的；
20.你不需要昂贵的公寓或房子（虽然这是最好的），但你不可能有低劣或破旧的家具，而且家具必须是干净的……因为坏男人不会流口水；
21.自我吹嘘，但永远不要自吹自擂……你也不想让别人知道你所做的一切。让他们知道你比他们酷坏男人不停地说他们的狗屎都是无聊的混蛋；

22.永远不要在一个地方呆的时间长到让别人发现你或者发现你。在不告诉别人你什么时候离开或者你要去哪里的情况下神秘地做这件事也是吸引他们注意的好方法。
23.永远不要害怕让一个女人知道你想和她上床……但是要控制住自己……有办法让一个女人知道这一点，而不让她觉得自己是个失控的混蛋；
24.学习如何做爱……因为坏男人是好女人的克星；
25.在你操了一个小妞之后……不要害怕离开，也不要告诉他们他们不能在这儿过夜……坏男人们不要抱在一起



Serge Bosits
It’s not that women are attracted to bad boys. They are attracted toconfidence. Also women are not attracted to a*holes. But you may think so ifyou have no social skills, and see a woman interacting with a normal confidentguy.
Yes, there are some women that genuinelylove bad boys. Usually these women have a lot of baggage, some mental issues orare very young and immature. So they are looking for somebody as broken as theyare.
As long as you’re not surrounded by hardened criminals, dealers, pimps andprostitutes, there is no point in being “bad”. You won’t get anywhere professionally, socially, or romantically.
You can fake being an antisocial rebel,exciting, cool, charming or whatever you like for a night. You can even do iton a regular basis. Fake it till you make it as they say. But it’s draining and pointless if it’s not “you”. You’re just an act wearinga mask.
If you want to become a cool dude, do coolstuff. Learn to ride a motorcycle, go parachuting, join boxing classes, do someart or music, travel to interesting places, join interesting clubs. Becomeconfident over time, by doing things interesting and confident people do.
Chances are you will end up with anattractive but also decent girl. They are actually much higher than “acting” being some badass.

不是因为女人喜欢坏男人。他们被自信所吸引。女人也不会被“混蛋”吸引。但如果你没有社交技能，你可能会这么想，并且看到一个女人和一个正常的自信的男人互动。是的，有些女人真心喜欢坏男人。通常这些女人有很多的包袱，一些精神问题或者非常年轻和不成熟。所以他们在寻找像他们一样破碎堕落的人。
只要你没有被顽固的罪犯、商人、皮条客和妓女包围，你就没有理由成为“坏人”。你不会得到任何专业的，社交的，或浪漫的地方。

你可以假装是一个反社会的反叛者，兴奋，酷，迷人在任何你喜欢的夜晚。你甚至可以定期这样做。假装它直到你按他们说的做。但如果那不是真的"你"那就太无聊了，因为你只是个戴着面具的演员。
如果你想成为一个很酷的家伙，做一些很酷的事情。学习骑摩托车，跳伞，参加拳击课程，做一些艺术或音乐，旅行到有趣的地方，加入有趣的俱乐部。随着时间的推移，通过做有趣和自信的事情，人们会变得自信。
你可能最终会和一个有魅力但又正派的女孩在一起。事实上，比“演戏”她们更厉害。

Emma Kleis
Please stay with me as I try to explain mycomplicated thoughts.
Oh, and if you can’t be bothered reading about why the typical ‘bad boy’ is only anillusion and just want answers about how to act like, what I have called, ‘the bad boy association’, go to the part of this text with the bold heading.
It is my belief that women aren’t attracted to the bad boy but instead are attracted to a certaingroup of personality traits which have simply been associated with the word ‘bad boy’.
This association has been created throughbooks and movies. For example, I don’t know a woman who does not have Wattpad[1] on her phone nowadays,and for those of you who don’t know, Wattpadis an app and website where users can create stories and share them for freefor other users to read. Right now, Wattpad is the epitome of cliche romancenovels about bad boys, millionaires, werewolves, vampires, the popular it-boyin school etc. There is no cliche that you can think of that is not somewhereon Wattpad, and so many women read these novels and create this image of theperfect man. I’m especially guilty ofthis.
Furthermore, novels which have been madeinto movies or series such as Fifty Shades of Grey, Twilight, The Hunger Games,Arrow, The Vampire Diaries, Shadow Hunters, do I really need to go on? Back tomy point, these movies and novels have some seriously idealistic malecharacters whom the protagonist will fall in love with, and this idealistic manalways ends up reciprocating these emotions.
To strengthen my point, I’d like to enlighten everyone about my addiction to cheesy romancenovels in order to show that I can reliably talk about my next argument. I’ve used Wattpad for just over five years now (that’s a long ass time), and back when I had just signed up, therecommended, most liked, most starred, winner of countless Wattpad awards wereall novels about a bad boy and a good girl. So, this is where the group ofpersonality traits stemmed from and because ‘bad boys’ were thebeginning of the cliche romance of this generation, the group of personalitytraits became associated with this term, ‘bad boy’.
WHAT MAKES A GOOD ‘BAD BOY’?
First of all, it should be said that the ‘bad boy association’ is not an act.No woman wants a man who must pretend to gain her interest.
Now, to answer your question, the way I seeit, you aren’t actually looking toact like a ‘bad boy’, you’re just wondering whatit is about the ‘association with badboys’ that women are soattracted to, so I’ll tell youwhat makes a good ‘bad boyassociation’.
He wears confidence like it’s a second skin and isn’t afraid to take charge of a situation when its needed. Hell, he’s borderline arrogant with his irresistible, yet frustrating, smirksthat drive you crazy. He’s the kind ofman that you notice when you first enter the room because, out of the manyother people in the crowd, he just has this air of confidence and charismaaround him. You notice it instantly from the way he holds himself and how he iscommunicating with the people around him. You notice it when you talk to himbecause he’s always smiling andsearching for your eyes to engage you in his world. Please note that often menare described as cold, hard and ruthless business tycoons, yet despite thatthey are interested in the main character as if they’re soulmates. The only reason that girl is even remotely attractedto this tall and brooding man to start with is because he is described as sexyas hell with tattoos for sleeves and jawlines sharp enough to rival a sushiknife!
“He doesn’t give a rat’s ass about me” said no woman in a successful relationship ever! Yet it is a mostnotable trait of your typical bad boy. He doesn’t care if you love him or not; he didn’t ask for your attention; he’s unavailable (not in the relationship-sense), and it makes youcrazy for him because he’s off-limits,forbidden and its intriguing. You want to get to know him; you want to knowwhat made him this closed off. He’s mysterious.He reveals just enough information about himself to keep you salivating formore. At this point, he’s probablyplaying you unless he’s a fictionalcharacter and just so happens to be “inexplicably drawn to you”. Here is what you should take from this: Women like a good mystery.They don’t like havingeverything handed to them on a silver platter and although many are fascinatedby the idea of being treated like a princess, they would absolutely hate it youdropped the L-bomb after your second week of seeing each other. You’re going to scare her away with your clingy-ness and willingness topamper her 24/7. She’s going tothink you’re a damn pussy. Find ahealthy mix between being a stoic, manly man and a loving and caring person.
He’s ambitious, not obsessive, ambitious. Usually, what the woman likesis to feel like she is the only one in his world. She would hate it if you havea million other girls waiting in line, so the feeling of being chased by a manis thrilling. It’s a feeling of powerover a man’s heart (and, if notreciprocated by the woman, can turn out badly for the man, hence be cautiousabout who you chase), and it excites her. She knows, by the amount of attentionyou give her, compared to other women, that you want her even if you haven’t made it clear vocally. It’s the feeling of being wanted. Make her feel wanted.
He embodies masculinity by being confidentand off-limits. The only emotion he wears on his sleeve is confidence, and it’s rolling off him in waves. He doesn’t show his vulnerable side to just anyone, and women know this; theyknow that men are just human after all, and they all have a vulnerability thatisn’t shown often. She wants to be his confidant,his rock, the person to take care of him when he can’t be strong. The tougher and stronger his exterior is simply tells awoman that he’s either a totalasshole or covering up his emotions (not that he’s a total crybaby on the inside), and she wants to care for thisside of him. She wants to be special enough to have him open up to her.
There’s, of course, a lot more to it than that, but I urge you to gobeyond this bad boy association and realize that women just want someone with agood sense of humor and confidence who will love her unconditionally as shewill love him.

在我试着解释我复杂的想法时，请不要离开。哦，如果你读不懂典型的“坏男人”的精髓，只是想知道如何表现，我所说的“坏男人协会”，用粗体标题转到文本的部分。
我相信女人不会被坏男人吸引，相反，她们会被与“坏男人”这个词联系在一起的某些性格特征所吸引。



“他一点也不在乎我”，从来没有女人说过在成功的关系中！然而，这是你典型的坏男人最显着的特点。他不在乎你爱不爱他；他没有引起你的注意；他不在（在人际关系方面不），这让你为他疯狂，因为他是禁区，被禁止，而且很有趣。你想了解他；你想知道是什么让他如此封闭。他很神秘。他透露了足够多的关于他自己的信息，让你垂涎欲滴。

在这一点上，他可能是在扮演你，除非他是一个虚构的角色，而且恰好是“莫名其妙地被你吸引”。下面是你应该从中得到的：女人喜欢神秘的东西。他们不喜欢把所有的东西都放在银盘里，尽管很多人对被当作公主来对待的想法很着迷，但他们绝对不会喜欢你在见面的第二周就把l弹扔了。你会把她吓跑的，因为你整天都在娇惯她。她会认为你是个娘们。要在坚忍、有男子气概的男人和有爱心、有爱心的男人之间找到一个健康的组合。

他很有野心，不是强迫，有野心。通常，女人喜欢的是觉得她是他世界上唯一的女人。如果你有上百万的女孩在排队，她会很讨厌的，所以被男人追的感觉是令人兴奋的。这是一种对男人的感觉（如果没有女人的回应，男人的下场会很糟糕，所以对你追求的人要谨慎），这让她兴奋。她知道，从你对她的关注程度来看，与其他女人相比，你想要她，即使你没有在口头上表达清楚。这是被需要的感觉。让她觉得自己是被需要的。

他通过自信和限制来体现男子气概。他袖子上唯一的感情是自信，这是他的情绪起伏。他没有向任何人展示他脆弱的一面，而女人也知道这一点；她们知道男人毕竟也只是人，而且他们都有一种不常表现出来的脆弱。她想成为他的知己，他的岩石，当他不能坚强的时候照顾他的人。他的外表越强硬，就越能告诉女人，他要么是个混蛋，要么就是在掩饰自己的情绪（不是说他内心里是个爱哭鬼），她想照顾他的这一面。她想让他对她敞开心扉。
当然，还有更重要的事，但我劝你不要再和坏男人交往了，要知道女人只是需要一个有幽默感和自信的人，她会无条件地爱她，就像她爱他一样。

Kristina Kirilova
You’re crazy to believe that women are attracted to bad boys. But I can’t blame you – even women believe it themselves. But the truth is, wesimply don’t know what we areattracted to.
Every girl dreams of finding her prince inshining armor. We don’t grow upwanting to be with bad violent guys. No one wants to commit with someone who iscapable of lying, cheating, fighting, running, hiding. We definitely don't fallfor the asshole behavior.
Bad boys possess traits, that make themattractive. You can adopt some of them to raise your attractiveness:
Bad boys are actually nice, at least inmany women’s fantasies.
The ultimate aphrodisiac is a guy whoappears to be tough on the outside, but who turns into this lovely, vulnerablebeing when he is with her.
Bad boys know what they want… and don’t fear to showit
Bad boys don’t ask for permission. Have you ever seen bad boys in the movies whoask their date, if they are allowed to kiss her, grab her, love her? Nope –they are confident enough to know she likes them. So, they just pull hercloser, look her in the eyes and kiss her.
Bad boys don’t fear rejection
They know that rejection is a good thing.It tells them who they don’t want to wastetheir precious time on. They don’t see any pointin being with someone who is not excited to be with them. That's definitely thekey of overcoming your rejection fears.
Bad boys have confident body language
Their head is held high and their backstraight. They move slowly and precisely. Both feet are firmly placed on theground. Everything about their body language screams confidence and dominance.They also take up a ton of space by e.g., sitting with open legs and armsstretched out.



Nerijus Antanavicius
You can act like a bad boy and then go into a really dangerous place and see how that façade works out.
Contrary to typical self denying nice guys,there is something that “bad boys” have.
Its an embrace of the primalistic,monstrous side of ourselves. All of us have it. If you don’t embrace it, you are weak. If it controls you, you are a slave toit. If you accept and transcend it, you gain something from it.
Having said that, lets be frank, beingattracted to a person who lost control of his dark side is borderlinepathological and basically trashy behavior. You DO NOT want women like that.Women that want actual criminals are the ones that end up being beaten by them,who knows why, but they seem to not connect the dots, sad for them, but itsborderline masochistic behavior. Never stick your d*ck in crazy is a goodsaying, and women who want men who lost control of their dark side are a goodexample of crazy.
NOW. HAVING SAID THAT. Nor do they want aweakling that is not capable of anything. Cowardice is no virtue. And peoplethat pretend it is, are not fooling anyone, women especially.
For better of for worse, women can sniffthis a mile away. If you want to be a “bad boy”, there isliterally only the way of facing your shadow. Your fears, your violence, youraggression, your sexuality.
Its a complicated topic, of basically doingthe Jungian dive to the shadow.
Point is, you can’t fake it, you would have to endure real fear, real suffering, realacceptance of the monstrosity that a human being is capable of, and of thetriumph that one gets when going through real challenges.
If it does not consume you, you wouldbecome better than a bad boy, you would become a fully integrated human being,capable of acts of power and aggression, but keeping it under control. If yousubmit to those instincts, you become a pathetic “bad boy” , basically acriminal loser in todays society.



Vidushi Gupta
Women are attracted to bad boys?
Let's uate your claim.
Traits of a bad boy :
He is selfish. In every possible way. Allhe cares about is himself, and he will fail to understand other's emotions.
He's dishonest, lies, hides, cheats, anddon't value anyone in his life.
He has a superiority complex because he's amale. And therefore he has absolutely no respect for the fairer gender, womenare just a peice of meat for him. They belong either in the bedroom, or the kitchento serve his different needs.
He has no respect even for other men,children, old people. He is competitive, he is abusive, he loves materialthings, drinks, and has absolutely no interest in the gentle things of life.
He's irresponsible and unaccountable. Heruns away from his responsibilities, actions and liabilities. He has no careabout those who are dependent on him. His personal needs are the only thing hisworld revolves around.
Traits of a good man :
He is not selfish. He cares about other's emotionstoo, and try to understand them.
He's honest, transparent, accountable,loyal and simple. He values the people and things in his life.
He understands the value of a woman in hislife. He consider them as important as man. He respects them. He knows the roleof each woman in his life, and appreciates and is filled with gratitude forwhat the women in his life do for him.
He respects other men, children, oldpeople, animals, plants and every creature of the world, until he has a strongreason otherwise. He's gentle, he's a creator not a destructor, he's aprotector, not violent.
He's responsible. He looks after hisparents, his siblings, his lady, his friends, his work, his passions, even helpstrangers. He takes responsibility for every action of his and don't playunnecessary games.
Although I know that the traits of a goodman are not practical but theoretical, because no living man could have allthese qualities at the same time. And it's okay if he lacks some minor points.But whoever thinks a woman will be attracted to the bad boy, and not a goodman, is living under a rock.
First of all, a woman will never choose abad boy. A girl might, but definitely not a woman. The sense of judgement of acharacter separate girls from women. A girl will choose a bad boy, hoping thatone fine day he will transform magically into a good man, a woman just knowsthat's never going to happen. A girl will waste her coins in a hope that she'llwin a lottery, a woman knows the value of coins and she will invest them in abank.
Women fall for men. Men who are deep intheir minds, emotions, and character. Men who are serious, yet witty. Men whoare mature, yet child-like. Men who are responsible, yet know how to have fun.Women don't fall for guys who's sole aim in life is to drink and roam aroundthe streets of the city at night, molesting other girls. Women don't fall forguys who are not serious, who don't respect people. Women don't fall for guyswho act irresponsible for their own actions. Girls do. Just like good maturemen will never choose the bad immature girls, same way good mature women willnever choose the bad guys.
So it depends what you want to attract. Ifyou want to attract quality women, become a quality man. I can vouch that themost genuine of women will not see your abs or wallet first. They will see yourheart. Girls on the other hand, will swoon over your 'hotness' and 'richness'and will be attracted by you.
Bad boys only attract bad girls, whichaccording to me is a match made in heaven. It's the gentlemen that steals theshow for the women. Choice is yours, who you want to be.

女人喜欢坏男人？
我们来评估一下你的诉求。
坏男人的特点：
他很自私。以各种可能的方式。他只在乎他自己，他会不理解别人的感情。
他不诚实，说谎，隐藏，欺骗，不重视在他的生活的任何人。
他有优越感因为他是男性。因此，他绝对不尊重更公平的性别，女人只是他的肉饼。她们要么属于卧室，要么属于厨房来满足他的不同需要。

他对其他男人、孩子、老人都不尊重。他很有竞争力，他爱辱骂，他爱物质，他爱喝酒，他对生活中温和的事物完全没有兴趣。
他既不负责任又不负责任。他逃避自己的责任、行为和责任。他不在乎那些依赖他的人。他的世界围绕着他的个人需求。
好人的特征：
他并不自私。他也关心别人的情绪，并试着去理解它们。
他诚实，透明，负责，忠诚和简单。他重视生活中的人和事。



Anonymous
Let me put it shortly: Women are notattracted to “bad boys” just boys who pretend to be nice and are extremely forthcomingunlike the shy ones who never do. Unlike you, who is all around these men andto whom these bad men confess every bad things they do, women are most of thetime are not privy to that “real” person. For them that extrovert, brash but nice enough man is real.By the time the real color show up they either leave them or stay with thembecause they are just as bad as he anyway or they don’t leave because they fear being alone.
Confirmation bias or not i have seen this.Everytime. The most clear cut example was a man i knew from my school days, whowas such a nice boy, smart, articulate and kind and used to call him brother.Due to college and different courses he changed cities shortly after school anda whole year later through messages, i got to know how much he has changed. Iwas still naive and sheltered. God knew didn’t understand what is right or wrong but when he started to show nsfwcontent of his own sex life and his partner and mostly of his partner despiteme saying no, i knew this is what they were talking about when they say “bad boys” get the girl.
He told me his partner didn’t mind. I knew it in my heart he is lying. Any sane person would bedevastated to know that his/her vulnerable pictures are being exposed tostrangers without permission. But i couldn’t do anything about it. I severed all contact but knew from chain ofacquaintances that publicly he still obsessively doted on his partner and theirfamily. He was the picture perfect boyfriend.
“He” is a bad boy, i know, you know but god knows the girl he is foolingdoesn’t. most of the time.This is a toxic , sexist stereotype designed to make sure men view women asnothing more than foolish idiot , dumb for not realizing what nice , sexdeserving man you are “nice” guy and should be target of your frustration and belittle them.Honestly i am not that surprised most the men who answered till now blamed thewomen especially 20 and 30’s ones in onegroup who salivate over men who are bad and dangerous for them. Now this iscalled bad stereotyping. To combat that, Just look at movies like LegallyBlonde where the moment Elle, the protagonist, realized what an egotisticaldickhead the guy she was chasing, she dropped him like a hot potato. She chosethe other , more kind and genuinely nice man instead.
Hopefully you get the idea and understand thatyou need to work on presenting yourself forward . Most of the single people,including me( i am fine with it) are single because they don’t present themselves or not extrovert enough. Question yourself onwhether you ever made any girl who was willing realize that you are availablewithout hiding your intention within the mask of friendship or if you do thenwhat you have that is unique as a partner??

让我简单地说一下：女人不会被“坏男人”吸引，他们只是假装友善的男孩，和害羞的男孩不一样。不像你，你是这些男人身边的人，这些坏男人向你坦白他们所做的每一件坏事，女人大部分时间都不与那个“真实”的人接触。对那些性格外向，鲁莽但善良的人来说是真实的。当真正的颜色出现时，他们要么离开他们，要么和他们呆在一起，因为他们和他一样坏，或者他们不离开是因为他们害怕孤独。



Avanish Saxena,
Women in general are attracted to the badboy image because they are confident. These kind of men are mostly not good inlong term relationships. While all women are unique and have different preferenceswhen it comes to dating,confidence is the most effective and gauranteed way toget their attention(in a good way).Rather than trying to imitate theirpersonality traits, you should try to get more confident without getting allthe bad stuff that accompanies the bad boy image.
Follow these simple steps:-
Body language:-Whenever someone notices youfor the first time, your body language can make you look weak or strong in aninstant. Attractive women are genetically engineered to weed out the guys who’re naturally confident from those who aren’t because they are constantly showered with attention. Whilestanding and walking and sitting , you should keep your back straight and keepyour shoulders slightly back in a way that sticks your chest out(Don’t overdo it or it will seem as if you’re overcompensating). And also don’t keep your eyes peeled to the ground, look ahead when you’re walking. Look down by moving your eyes and not your neck when youhave to. When you have an attractive body language you automatically feel moreconfident and vice versa.
State of mind:-Your mind influences yoursurroundings so you should always feel confident that you’re attractive. When you truly start believing women are intrested inyou, this beleif will be reflected in your confident body language and thepeople around you will eventually start seeing you in the same light.


互动：-你有没有注意到有魅力的女人往往有更大的自我。你是对的和错的。当一个女孩在你交往的最初阶段无缘无故地侮辱你时，这实际上是一个测试你自信的过滤机制（只要确保你没有真的惹恼她）。在这种情况下，一般人会被冒犯或生气。一个坏男人会侮辱她作为回报。你不需要成为一个失败者，让她到处欺负你，你也不应该成为一个混蛋让她被你吸引。这里最好的办法就是不要对她的侮辱作出反应。女人自己有时并不知道，她们用这种方式来考验男人的信心，但她们确实知道。更有魅力的女性会在你开始交往时更频繁地侮辱你。
我知道这一切看起来有点牵强，但相信我吧。典型的坏男人天生就有这些性格特征，因此更受女孩的喜爱。希望这能有所帮助。祝你好运。