男人不坏女人不爱，如何才能成为一个坏男人？（三） [美国媒体]

Women are attracted to bad boys, How can I act like or be a bad boy?

男人不坏女人不爱，如何才能成为一个坏男人？（三）

Sarah Davis
As a woman, I'm not attracted to “bad boys”. That went out the door along with my Twilight phase at 15.
I’m an intelligent, young woman who pretty much has her life together (does a grad student ever totally have their life together?) this combined with the fact that I'm an intj means I don't have time for the “bad boy” act. Most women that I know of regardless of personality don't have time for it actually.

作为一个女人，我不喜欢“坏男人”。在我15岁的时候，有了真正的女性特征。我是一个聪明的年轻女人，意味着我没有时间去欣赏“坏男人”。我认识的大多数女人，不管个性如何，其实都没有时间去欣赏坏男人。



That being said, the “bad boy" characteristics in movies, tv, smutty romance novels, etc. that women are attracted to are pretty easy to understand.

也就是说，电影、电视、色情小说中的“坏男人”特征很容易被女人所理解。

Confidence— This is such an attractive quality. A man who knows who he is and what he wants is always desired. Combining that with the confidence to be in his own skin with no excuses is a heady mixture.

这是一种非常有吸引力的品质。一个知道自己是谁，知道自己想要什么的人总是被渴望的。把这种自信和没有任何借口的自信结合在一起是一种令人兴奋的混合物。

Self- Reliance— This makes a heart beat quickly as well. A man who doesn't need someone else to take care of him or need someone else to make him happy is hard to resist. This doesn't mean indifference, but it does mean that he chooses the people in his life carefully.

这也让人心跳加速。一个不需要别人照顾或者不需要别人让他快乐的男人是很难抗拒的。这并不意味着冷漠，但却意味着他谨慎地选择生活中的人。



I have a few tips for accomplishing this.
1.) You pick the venue for the first date.It shows that you're a decisive man of action. Plus, you can choose a placethat you're familiar with in order to give yourself the home-field advantage.

我有几个建议可以解决这个问题。
1.)你选择第一次约会的地点。这说明你是个果断的人此外，你可以选择一个你熟悉的地方，以便给自己的主场优势。

2.) Treat her as you would a sister or oldfriend. Yes, it sounds strange, but you should be comfortable and pleasantwithout being overly-close or flirty (unless if she initiates it, save that forlater).

2.)对待她就像对待姐姐或老朋友一样。是的，这听起来很奇怪，但你应该舒适和愉快，而不是过于亲密或调情（除非她主动，留着以后再说）。



Dominique Zak
I am by no means a expert on love and will never claim to be. However, I have certain firm beliefs when it comes to relationships and the like. One firm belief is never change who you are, for anyone; unless that change is a positive one. You don’t want to be with someone that brings out the worst in you or for you to be the one that brings out the worst in them, to positively complement one another and help push the other person to be the best that they can be is ultimate relationship goals (at least to me). Sure, the bad boy thing has been romanticized in all those movies and cheesy romance novels for middle aged house wives, but as a woman, I never saw the appeal. I prefer someone I can trust and be comfortable around, someone that complements me (like I do him) and can make me laugh. A lover that can make you laugh and makes you feel beautiful even when you don’t feel your best is the hottest thing I can imagine. But above all that, a guy that is himself.

我绝不是爱情方面的专家，也永远不会自称是。然而，我有坚定的信念。对任何人来说，坚定的信念永远不会改变你自己，除非这种改变是积极的。你不想和一个能把你最糟糕的一面展现出来的人在一起，或者让你成为那个能把你最糟糕的一面展现出来的人，积极地相互补充，帮助对方成为他们所能做到的最好，是最终的恋爱目标（至少对我来说）。当然，坏男人的事情已经浪漫在所有那些电影和俗气的浪漫小说为中年家庭主妇，但作为一个女人，我从来没有看到这种吸引力。我更喜欢一个我能信任和舒适的人，一个能互补的人（就像我对他一样），能逗我笑的人。我能想象到的最性感的事情就是一个能让你欢笑、让你觉得美丽的爱人。但最重要的是，他是他自己。



I’m not completely sure what one has to do to be considered a Bad Boy. I had an image some time ago but since I’ve been considered a Bad Boy my own definition is questionable to me. My ex fiancé, her mother and sister all said that I was a Bad Boy. I really don’t see it. I ride a motorcycle, I have a tattoo, I wear jeans and a t shirt most of the time, I was in the Army, i carry a gun and I like to get into physical altercations. Do any of these make me a Bad Boy? In the same sense I still drive a car, my tartooes are pretty non offensive, I own three $3k - 5k suites, I now work in a Neonatal Intensive Care Unit, I don’t always carry my gun and the only time I will put myself in a situation to fight is of to protect my loved ones or defend a stranger from physical harm from a bully.

我不完全确定一个人要做什么才能被认为是个坏男人。我以前有过这样的印象，但自从我被认为是个坏小子后，我自己的定义就成了问题。我的前未婚妻，她的母亲和姐姐都说我是个坏小子。我真的看不出来。我骑摩托车，我有纹身，我大部分时间穿牛仔裤和T恤，我曾经在军队，携带过枪，我喜欢直接动手解决问题。这些会让我变成坏小子吗？在同样的意义上，我还开着车，我有三个3K-5K套房，我现在在新生儿重症监护室工作，我不总是带着枪，我唯一一次让自己处于战斗的境地是为了保护我爱的人或保护陌生人免受恶霸的人身伤害。



Giles Goodman
Stop caring what women think of your behaviour but care yourself about how you look. Be more narcicistic and indulge yourself in a look that women like - (a makeover?) - this is part of the bad boy vibe.
Tell women about the fantastic life you have and dont act like you give a shit if they come along for the ride or not (and actually DO something about making that fantastic life happen!).

不要在意女人对你行为的看法，而要关心自己的外表。让自己更自恋，让自己沉浸在女人喜欢的样子中——（改头换面？）-这是坏男人标准的一部分告诉女人，你有多么美妙的生活，不要表现得好像你在乎她们是否愿意一起出去（或者做点什么让美妙的生活发生的事情！）..

Don’t analyse this stuff too much or overthink it. Be spontaneous, I sense a nerdiness about anyone who asks this question. Bad boys dont give a damn about how they are perceived. Be ruder, be more blunt and care less.

别分析太多或是想太多。如果你是自发的，我就会对任何问这个问题的人感到紧张。坏男人不在乎别人怎么看他们。要粗鲁，要直率，要满不在乎。

Get off this website, get out into the world and take action. Be dynamic! Self-assured, totally confident. You have to believe this, if you don’t no-one else will find your behaviour authentic.

离开这个网站，走出这个世界并采取行动。要有活力！自信，完全自信。你必须相信这一点，如果你不这样做，没有人会发现你的行为是发自内心的。



Quora User
if you try to be something you’re not, people will sense that. Go ahead and be fake if you really think that’s going to help, if you really think that every single woman on this planet is attracted to “bad boys.”

如果你试图成为不是自己的人，人们会感觉到的。如果你真的认为这会有所帮助，如果你真的认为这个星球上的每个女人都被“坏男人”吸引，那就继续假装吧。

This might come as a shocker, so please prepare yourself: woman can be attracted to different kinds (and genders) of people. This “bad boy/girl” type is only one of many.
If you’re doing this in the hopes of finding a date, good luck. you might attract someone. It will only be a matter of time before they realize that it’s just a facade, tat you were basically lying, presenting a false sense of yourself, for the sole purpose of sex. Go ahead, see how far that gets you. Maybe then you’ll figure it out.

这可能会让人震惊，所以请做好准备：女人会被不同种类（和性别）的人吸引。这种“坏男人/女孩”类型只是其中之一。如果你这么做是为了找个伴，祝你好运。你可能会吸引别人。这只是一个时间问题，直到他们意识到这只是一个假象，你基本上是在撒谎，呈现一个虚假的自我感觉，为了性的唯一目的。去吧，看你能走多远。也许你就会明白了。