真相是，我在中国碰到的大多数外国人都证明了他们自己是“真混蛋” [美国媒体]

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EmperorGeorgiou 于 4 天前 发表
Hurts me to say it but in all my years living here locals have been far nicer than the entitled Foreigners I come across.

虽然这么说我很是痛心，但是在我生活在中国的这几年，当地人对我比我碰到的所谓外国人好太多了。

Just saw a Brit not the first one get into a fight with a cab driver. You would think that the driver tried to overcharge him or something but no. I intervened to mediate the situation and that tool apparently refused to pay the minimum fare (10 RMB) because the course was shorter than 3km. Hey a-hole the fare starts at 10 RMB up to 3km not to be discussed or bargained.

刚看到一英国人和一的士司机发生了冲突，这不是我第一次碰到这种事了。你可能会想，这是因为司机企图宰那个英国人一笔。然而事实并非如此。我介入调停了那场冲突，了解到原来是那英国废渣拒绝支付司机最低车费（10块人民币）因为车程短于3公里。我去，他还真是个混球，出租车的起步价就是10元（3公里以内），这是不能讨价还价的。

It's amazing how we make up less than 1% of the population and yet I see such despicable individuals every other week.

令人惊奇的是，我们所占的人口明明少于总人口的1%，然而我每隔一周就会碰见这种卑鄙小人。


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–]HopfroggUnited States 60 指标 4 天前 
Most? Eh the ratio is certainly higher than back home but I think most are actually ok. The bad ones though ugh so bad that they make the percentage seem higher.

大多数？比例当然比自己国家的大一些，但我觉得大多数人其实都还行。坏的那些，额，的确很坏，坏到让混蛋的百分比好像都高了很多。

“locals have been far nicer than the entitled Foreigners I come across.”
Oh shit same experience I've had much better success with Chinese friends than foreign friends here. I still don't get that "you can't make real friends here" bullshit. Hasn't been a fucking problem. My Chinese friends are awesome. The good foreigners awesome too but yeah wooooh I've run into way more bad apples in my foreign friends circle than in my Chinese friends circle. Granted there are good and bad in both.

“当地人对我比我碰到的所谓外国人好太多了。”
喔，我去，一样的经历。在这里我和中国朋友比和外国朋友处得更好。我仍然搞不懂那句“你不能在这交到真朋友”的话，简直是胡说八道。这根本不是问题。我的中国朋友都很好，好的外国人也很好，但是比起中国朋友的圈子，我在外国朋友圈子里碰见了更多的渣滓。不过的确两边都有好有坏。

Oh and the fucking times I've seen this same thing happen. A foreigner automatically assuming he's getting cheated and getting all apoplectic over it. Chill out... a lot of times you are just misinterpreting shit.

天了噜了，我看见过这种事情太多次了：一外国人想当然地认为自己被骗了然后气得跟疯了似的。冷静一下吧…很多时候只是你自己误解了。

Got in a cab once and had to go about 3km. Driver didn't reset the meter started at 36rmb. I start telling him you gotta reset the meter. He's speaking some dialect I can't understand but giving me this dismissive hand wave and a smile. Now I know a fuckton of shitheads that would start losing it at this point and throwing a fit. I decide I'm gonna let this play out. We can have a big fucking debate at the end if something is not on the level but let's see wtf the handwave is about.

有一次我坐出租车，得走大概3公里。司机没有把计价器归零，车价从36元开始计费。我告诉他，你得重置计价器。他讲着我听不懂的方言，但是给我摆手表示拒绝，还朝我笑了一下。好了，我知道很多白痴在这时候会开始暴走发脾气。我决定我也要这么干。如果他敢耍什么花招宰我，我最后肯定是会跟他大吵一架的，但是先让我瞧瞧看这摆手到底他妈是什么意思。

We get to the end and he shows me the hand signal for 10. Dude wasn't trying to scam me. He knew it was a short 2 minute ride and was trying to save me a few rmb and pocket a quick 10. Win win. But oh the number of featherweight Tims who think they are King Kong over here and that would go ballistic in these situations... been a lot.

我们到了目的地，他给我打手势说要10元。他没打算骗我，他知道开两分钟就能到了所以想给我省点钱，就要个10块，双赢。但是有些容易飘飘然觉得自己在这里很了不起的无名小卒们，碰到这种情况就容易突然发飙……还挺多的。

[–]TheDark1 27 指标 3 天前 
that's a nice story but being distrustful of taxi drivers is both reasonable and wise. Everyone local or foreign has been cheated by a taxi driver before. In your own example the taxi driver was being dishonest but you understand that he was cheating his boss not you. Good for you but should everyone be expected to know that?

是个不错的故事，但是对出租车司机保持怀疑是合理并且聪明的做法。所有人，不管是本地人还是外国人，都被出租车司机骗过。在你的那个个人例子里出租车司机并不诚实，只是你知道他骗的不是你而是他的老板罢了。对你是好的，但是所有人都得知道这个吗？

[–]buckwurst 15 指标 3 天前 
I've been cheated by taxi drivers from New York to New Delhi it's not just a China thing. In fact I'd put Shanghai pretty far up in any trustworthy taxi list (Hangzhou BJ not so much). Still being distrustful and attentive is good advice anywhere.

我从纽约去新德里的时候被出租车司机骗过，这种事不是只有在中国才会发生。实际上我会把上海放在最值得信任的出租车榜单前列（杭州，北京没那么靠前），然而不管在哪里都保持怀疑和警惕是一个好建议。

[–]HopfroggUnited States 3 指标 3 天前 
“should everyone be expected to know that?”
No which is why I told the story and said don't immediately assume you are being cheated.
Personally I wish the guy would have reset the meter and did things the honest way. I don't give a shit about the 5 rmb he saved me. But knowing how many hours those guys work and how little they make I'm not going to get on a soapbox with the guy because he pocketed an extra 10 rmb.

“所有人都得知道这个吗？”
不，这就是为什么我要告诉你们这个故事，对你们说不要马上就觉得自己被骗了。个人来说我希望那个司机能重置计价器，诚实做事。我不在乎他给我省的五块钱。但是知道他们一天工作那么多小时但赚的只有那么一点，我不会因为他挣了10块钱的外快就和他扯大道理。

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[–]timboslice6969 1 指标 3 天前 
At some point stop and think is 10rmb worth having a hissy fit over? Most expats are earning huge money compared to the local counterparts. If someone is scamming me out of a small sum it means more to them than me I pay it and have a chuckle about how cheeky they are.

停下来想一想10块钱值得生气吗？与条件相似的当地人相比，外国人能挣到很多的钱。如果谁想骗我一笔小额的钱而这钱对他的意义比对我大得多，我会支付的，再笑笑他们的厚脸皮。

[–]TheDark1 4 指标 3 天前 
Not at all but I know there have been times when I've thought to myself I am sick of people thinking they can walk on me.

完全不值得生气，但是我知道自己有过很多次暗自思量，我讨厌别人觉得他们可以骑到我头上。

[–]timboslice6969 3 指标 3 天前 
I have a little mantra for these situations "small victories for small people". It stops me from drop-kicking pushy grandmas at the local grocery store.

对于此类情况我有一句口头禅：“小人才占小便宜”。它让我没有在当地的食品杂货店里跟爱冲的大妈们杠上。

[–]diffianWales 15 指标 4 天前 
I just think the worst thing about a lot of expats here is the dick waving that goes on between them. So many expats are desperate to seen as "The One True Representative" of their country's culture or that their presence here is of more crucial importance than others. And those that learn the lingo can sometimes be obnoxious about it to others who don't yet speak it I saw one white dude sitting at a table full of foreigners absolutely bellowing in Beijing-accented Mandarin the whole time even though this was in Shenzhen and not a single Chinese person in their company.

我认为对于在中国的很多外国人来说，最坏的事情就是相互之间一定要分个高低。很多外国人很不希望被看做他们国家文化的“真正的代表”或者被认为他们在这里的存在比其他人更加重要。对于还不会中文的人来说，那些懂中文的人有时候会比较讨人厌。我看见过一个白人和一桌子一直在大声讲北京口音普通话的外国人坐在一起，虽然那是在深圳，边上也没有一个中国人。

[–]Reza_JafariRussia 5 指标 3 天前 
I always thought that if someone speaks Mandarin to other foreigners the person is most likely:
Very sinified
From either India or some bumfuck in Russia

要是有人跟其他外国人讲中文，我通常会认为那个人可能：
非常中国化；
一般不是从印度就是从俄罗斯的哪个偏远地方来的。

[–]JillyPollaTaiwan 3 指标 3 天前 
I don't know some foreigners actually speak Chinese pretty well. Not every foreigner speaks English well enough for it to be conversant. I've seen a Russian speak to an Italian in Chinese because that's the best common language between them.

我不认识那些其实中文说得很好的外国人。不是每个外国人的英语都好到了精通的程度。我曾见过一个俄国人跟一个意大利人说中文，因为这是他们之间最合适的沟通语言了。

[–]diffianWales 1 指标 3 天前 
Well this dude was English based on what I heard of this accent in the few moments that he did speak English

嗯，听那会儿他说英语的口音，我判断出这人是英国人。

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[–]nfrmn 59 指标 4 天前 
On the other hand I've only met other really nice foreigners. All friendly open-minded people from all of the world's corners.
Apart from this one guy...

另一方面，我遇见的其他外国人都很好，他们来自世界各个角落，友好豁达。只除了这个家伙……

Saturday morning in Shanghai. Line 1. Hungover foreign guy in full NFL fan clothes gets on the metro. Reeks of booze.

周六的早上，在上海的一号线，一个全身上下穿着NFL球迷服的宿醉外国人上了地铁，浑身一股酒臭味。
（译注：NFL=National Football League（美）全国橄榄球联盟）

The way he did it is what was truly spectacular. He rode one of those Segway clones onto the carriage parked it and then sat down & fell asleep.
He didn't say a word but I could tell he was an asshole.

他上地铁的方式真是神奇。他骑着一辆赛格威电动平衡车上了车厢，停好之后坐下来睡着了。他虽然没说一句话但是我能判断出他是个混蛋。

[–]AdorabroUnited States 12 指标 3 天前* 
I've met plenty of friendly and open-minded foreigners and also met plenty of questionable foreigners (some who happen to be teachers.) However one foreigner stuck out in my mind as to how absolutely shitty of a person he is. Story time!

我遇见过很多友好开朗的外国人也遇见过很多有问题的外国人（有些凑巧还是老师）。然而，有一个外国人因为人太差劲给我留下特别深刻的印象。那么，讲故事的时间到了！

This guy used to work as a journalist from a really high up organization and talks about his high education his many certificates his published articles showing me pictures of himself all over the world and he's talking about all of this... a lot. He loves talking about himself. He's also talking a lot about politics and how black people are disgusting "low class" and have bad English. Yeah you read that right. He also uses "low class" for a lot of other people who are not "cultured" by his standards and he uses that word quite a lot.

这家伙以前是一名记者，来自一个非常高大上的组织。他大谈他的高学历、他的多个证书、他发表的文章，给我看他自己在世界各地拍的照片，他开口说得都是这些......不停地说。他喜欢谈论他自己，他也谈了很多政治的东西以及黑人有多恶心有多“底层”英语差得很。是的，你没看错。他用“底层”形容其他很多以他的标准看来没有“修养”的人，他用了这个词很多次。

Well... Before coming here he met and impregnated a Chinese woman while he was on one of his jobs. From what he said he thought she was "cultured" but when he arrived in China and saw that she wasn't who he thought she was and realized her family was from a "poor background" he was livid. He didn't realize he got chinar'd and oh boy... He got chinar'd BIG TIME. He talked to me about how utterly disgusting his wife's family was and how disgusting she was but he still had a child with her and has been staying here (miserably) for roughly 10 years. This was all from the second time I've met with him and he's blasting all this information about his personal life accomplishments and racism to me. He's not slowing down.

好吧.....在来这里之前，他在做其中一份工作的时候遇到一个中国女人，还让她怀孕了。据他自己所说，他认为她有“修养”，但是当他到中国之后，发现她并不是他所想的那样而且意识到她的家庭很是“贫穷”，对此他非常愤怒。他没有发现自己被骗了，诶，天啊……他被骗大发了。他告诉我他的妻子和她的家庭有多么令人恶心。但是他和她还有个孩子而且在这里（悲惨地）呆了大概10年了。从我和他第二次碰见后，他就一直在不停地向我叨叨他私人生活上的这些事情，还有他的成就，他的种族主义。他说个不停。

So he's still with his wife and he's talking about all these times he's had sex with many different Chinese girls while married. He says he doesn't love her and the marriage is up because he's there simply for his child which is probably the only good part of his character that I can think of but I'm not confident in saying that. There's this one time he's with a girl and asks her "Why don't you speak English well? It doesn't matter if you live in China. English is a universal language. Everyone should be speaking it!" This is the same guy who refuses to eat Chinese food brags about staying at 5 star hotels and refuses to learn the language and adapt to the culture. Yeah... He's been here for roughly a decade.

所以他仍旧和他的妻子在一起，还一直在说他结婚后和各种中国女孩上了多少次床。他说他不爱他的妻子，他们的婚姻已经走到了尽头，他仍留在这里只是为了孩子，这可能是我能想到的他人格里唯一一个算是好的地方了，但我也不确定能不能这么说。有一次他和一个女孩在一起，问她：“你为什么英语说不好？这跟你只生活在中国完全没关系。英语是一门通用语言，每个人都应该说英语！”同时他还拒绝吃中餐，吹牛说自己住五星级酒店，不学中文也不想入乡随俗。是的……他已经在这呆了快十年了。

He ends up talking to me at a later point about how he's leaving his wife and he's going to marry this other Chinese woman because she is "cultured" compared to many other Chinese women he's met and I'm thinking in the back of my mind: You just like being a miserable fuck. Well... ever since then I've limited my contact with this guy big time.

他和我的谈话最后以此结尾：他要离开他的妻子，和那个中国女孩结婚，因为比起很多他遇到过的其他中国女人，她是“有修养”的。我心里在想：你就喜欢当个卑鄙的混蛋。好吧.....从那之后我就大大减少了和这人的联系。

Sorry if this comes out as venting but this guy is easily one of the most arrogant and bigoted people I've ever met here. There are plenty of open-minded foreigners here but unfortunately you can come across some really disgusting and vile foreigners but it's not just limited to them; this applies to anyone locals AND foreigners. It's best to just stay away from those kind of people for your own benefit.

如果你感觉这是我在发牢骚，很抱歉，但是这个人无疑是我在这遇见的人里最自大最心胸狭窄的了。这里有着很多豁达开明的外国人，但是不幸的是，你偶尔也会碰见一些真的很恶劣又讨人厌的外国人。可是，这个道理不仅限于他们，也适用于所有人——不管是本地人还是外国人。为了自己好，最好还是离那种人远一点。

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[–]Raghuman 2 指标 3 天前 
Sounds like a right cunt.
听起来就是个彻头彻尾的烂渣。

[–]AdorabroUnited States 2 指标 3 天前 
To the highest level. This guy really struck me as an absolute piece of shit in a very quick period of time.

完全是最高级别的烂渣。在极短的相处时间内，这家伙表露出来的狗屎混球程度令我非常震惊。

[–]FileError214 3 指标 3 天前 
This sounds like a hapa fantasy story.
It’s probably true I’ve known some proper scumbags too. Fuck that guy for giving foreigners a bad reputation. Nobody notices the quiet well-behaved foreigners.

这听起来像一个虚构故事。不过这事大概是真的，因为我也认识一些卑鄙小人。去他的这些人，净给我们外国人招黑。都没人注意低调的、品行良好的外国人了。

[–]AdorabroUnited States 3 指标 3 天前 
“This sounds like a hapa fantasy story.”
I wish it was... I really wish it was.
If some people are interpreting my post in different ways I'm not trying to paint all or many foreigners with a negative brush. There are plenty of foreigners here who are very friendly and down-to-earth people. Unfortunately there are some foreigners here (like the guy I mentioned) who are just complete miserable pieces of shit but these kind of people are everywhere.

“这听起来像一个虚构故事。”
我希望这是我虚构出来…我真的这么想。
如果有人以不同的角度来解读我发的内容，我要说的是我并不是要去抹黑所有的、或者说是很多的外国人。这里有很多友善、踏实的外国人。不幸的是也有一些屎一样的卑鄙小人（就像我提到的那个），这种人无处不在。

[–]FileError214 2 指标 3 天前 
I kinda saw your point as just highlighting how one sack of shit like that can poison the perception of all foreigners. Because it’s harder to see the ones who quietly do their jobs and live peaceful lives.

我有点明白你的意思，你只是想强调一颗老鼠屎坏了一锅粥，一个恶外国人影响了所有外国人的形象。因为比起这个，更困难的是让大家注意到那些默默地做自己的事情、平静生活的人。

[–]InLoveWithSunnyDays 35 指标 4 天前 
You meet such despicable individuals all over the world regardless the place. Lets not be so ignorant and close minded. Whether it is Chinese foreigners aliens there are idiots to be found everywhere.

你在世界各地都能遇到这种无耻之徒，不管在哪里。让我们不要那么愚昧和保守。不论是中国人，外国人还是外星人，哪里都有白痴。

[–]shannister 21 指标 4 天前 
“you run into an asshole in the morning you ran into an asshole; you run into assholes all day you're the asshole." Raylan Givens.

“你早上碰到一个混蛋，你碰到过一个混蛋；你整天都能碰到混蛋，你就是个混蛋。”瑞兰·吉文斯（Raylan Givens火线警探主角）

[–]Moochilove 7 指标 4 天前 
I've met some amazing and open minded foreigners while living in China. I definitely agree that some of them feel like they are on some high horse because their countries values don't line up with China's (therefore making them feel special or more intelligent).

我在中国的时候碰到过一些令人惊赞的、豁达开明的外国人。我当然同意有些外国人会觉得自己高人一等因为他们国家的发达水平价值观与中国不对等（所以他们觉得自己很特别或者更聪明）。

With that being said I've met some losers in China who wouldn't make it a day in my country and I think they find comfort in being in a place that gives them entitlement good wages and the air of arrogance they don't have back in their native country. I'd say I've met much much more awesome foreigners though. (Guangzhou)

正如我所说的那样，我在中国碰到过一些失败者，他们在我的国家一天都过不下去。我认为在一个有津贴、高工资、能让他们傲气得起来的地方，他们会过得更舒服，而在他们自己的国家，这些都是做不到的。虽然，我会说比起他们，我更多遇见的是非常好的外国人（在广州）。

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[–]prettyshuai4whiteguy 19 指标 4 天前 
The worst things I have ever heard have come from the mouths of other foreigners. Islamaphobia and racism towards both locals and darker skinned people is way more common than I like. I have heard some offensive things from locals but this has almost always been due to ignorance. My fellow foreigners know the things they say are deeply offensive and hurtful but say them anyways. I am not saying the majority of foreigners are like this but I have had way too many racist encounters with people who should know better. Hearing the n-word or c-word from someone who knows perfectly well the offensiveness of the word is disheartening. This subreddit gives me the same vibes sometimes. I hope we can all improve. This type of behavior is not acceptable.

我听到过最坏的事是出自其他外国人之口。针对当地中国人和深色皮肤者的伊斯兰恐惧症和种族主义比起我想的要普遍很多。我听到过本地人说的一些冒犯的话，不过这多是出于无知。我的外国伙伴知道他们说的话非常的冒犯和伤人却随意说出口。我不是说外国人里的大多数都是这样，但我已经碰见过非常明明很懂得（这些言语的冒犯性）却是种族主义者的人。听到n打头、c打头的词（辱骂、歧视词汇）从那些明知道这些话有多冒犯的人的嘴里说出来，真让人失望沮丧。红迪网的子板块有时候也让我有这样的感觉。我希望我们都能改善这点。这类行为是不可容忍的。

[–]shishiqiushi 17 指标 4 天前 
All racism is due to ignorance. I'm sick of that being used to excuse Chinese racism it is patronising. They are not children they are part of the second largest economy in the world with several ethnic minorities under their heel. Ignorance is not an excuse they have a responsibility to learn that dealing in ethnic stereotypes is wrong.

所有种族主义都是源于无知。我怕受够了要为中国人的种族主义申辩找借口。他们不是孩子，他们是全球第二大经济体，还有一些少数民族在他们的管辖之下。无知不是借口。他们有责任去搞清楚种族刻板印象是错的。

[–]prettyshuai4whiteguy 2 指标 3 天前 
No Chinese person has ever said the n-word in my company. There are still people here who have never seen or interacted with a foreigner. Six years ago China became the second largest economy eight years it was the third and 30 years ago it was the modern equivalent of Mexico. It's only in the last 30 years that the country has opened up. GDP per capita is still quite low and the population is cut off from the greater internet. Lets not forget that 92% of the population is Han and that number goes even higher if you consider minorities who have become absorbed into Han culture. Any time I have to explain that something they said is racist they apologize for it. This is different from someone who grows up in a multicultural environment where we in taught in school what is wrong.

我公司里没有一个中国人说过这个N打头的词。这里仍旧有一些人没见过或者接触过外国人。6年前中国成为第二大经济体，8年前它是第三大，30年前它等于现在的墨西哥。距中国改革开放只过了区区30年。人均GDP仍旧很低，整个国家与更广阔的网络世界是隔绝开来的。不要忘记人口中的92%都是汉族，而考虑到少数民族被不断吸收到汉文化里，这个数字还会变得更高。任何时候只要我解释他们说的什么东西是带有种族歧视的，他们就会道歉。这与一些在多元文化环境里长大、在学校里被教育什么是错的的人是不一样的。

[–]mr-wienerAustralia 2 指标 4 天前* 
Which "C" word do you mean "cunt" or "ch*nk"?

你指哪个c打头的词？“cunt（荡妇）”还是“chink（中国佬）”？

[–]prettyshuai4whiteguy 1 指标 3 天前 
The latter.

后者。

[–]21LJR21 -1 指标 4 天前 
Wow who still uses the word “chink” really hope you aren’t Australian.

哇，谁还会用“中国佬”这个词？真希望你不是澳大利亚人。

[–]dalardorf 5 指标 4 天前 
Believe it or not people still use it. I have a kid in 3rd grade and asked me what it meant because a few kids were calling him that during lunch.

不管你信不信，大家仍旧会说这个词。我有一个读三年级的孩子就问过我这个词是什么意思，因为有几个孩子在吃午饭的时候这么叫他。

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[–]metalgearexMacau 0 指标 3 天前* 
I can count the foreign friends I have here with one hand. As in people I'd associate with publicly.
I think there's something about China that attracts a mixture of the mentally ill loser and or entitled foreigner to come over here and do despicable things to make us all collectively look bad. Sad thing is I'm pretty sure I used to be one too until I learned to speak Chinese and realised what locals really think about us.

在我公开来往的人中，我在这交的外国朋友一手都能数得过来。我认为中国的有些地方吸引了不少心理有病的人、失败者，或者来这儿干上不了台面的事的所谓外国人，他们搞臭了我们全体外国人的形象名声。可悲的是我确定我以前也是其中一员，直到我学会说中文然后意识到本地人对我们的真实看法。

[–]metalgearexMacau 5 指标 3 天前* 
I think when living in a place like China where there's more pressure to look good you have to work hard to maintain people's respect. That's irrespective of what you do individually since the Chinese judge you based on your group.

我认为生活在一个像中国一样，需要承受更多压力才能保持体面的地方，你必须努力工作来维持人们对你的尊敬。你一个人做了什么事是不看的，因为中国人评断的标准是你的团队。

With that in mind I don't think it's a far cry to say that most foreigners don't work hard to maintain that respect and in fact go out of their way to make make us all look bad. That in turn affects what I can or can't do individually in China.

考虑到这一点，我认为说大部分外国人都不努力工作来保持体面是有道理的，他们其实是费尽心思要搞臭我们全部人，而这则反过来影响了我在中国能做和不能做的事。

You can say "oh why do you care so much?" and back home I wouldn't because we are treated as individuals. But in China you aren't an individual. You are always going to be Mr Laowai and that although is a neutral word still has a lot of negative connotations thanks to the work of stupid people that somehow get in here.

你可能会说“哦，你为什么那么在意啊？”，回本国的话我当然不会在意，因为我们每人都被视作是个体。但是在中国，你不是一个个体，你永远是老外，虽然这是个中性词，但多亏某些蠢人在这里的杰作，这个词仍旧有不少负面含义。

To give a crude example because we're laowai were apparently sexual beasts with a huge dick that ladies secretly lust after. So whenever I engage with a female Chinese the relationship will always be frxd in that way because that's what societal narrative has led them to believe. Remember in China you're treated based on your group and not as an individual and therefore when interacting with Chinese females you are always going to be seen as a 'pursuer' of them.

我要举一个粗暴的例子，因为我们是老外，我们肯定就是头性欲高涨的野兽，有着令女人渴望的大屌。所以只要我跟一位中国女性交往，我们的关系就会被定义成那样，因为那是社会论调让他们如此信以为真的。记住在中国别人会根据你所在的团体来看待你而不是把你作为一个个体。所以，与中国女性接触时，你总会被认为是她们的“追求者”。

At first it's great but if you're a normal person then after a while you realise it gets tiring. It works greatly to the favour of these losers who can't get laid back home so China is a paradise of  to them. But for normal folk who want genuine relationships and have goals it is very disconcerting to realise how lowly people think about you.

起初还是挺棒的，但是如果你是一个正常人，过一段时间后你会觉得这变得有点累人。这会很对那些回国后没法得到性爱的失败者的胃口，所以中国对他们来说是一个性爱天堂。但对于那些想要真实的感情并且有目标的正常人来说，意识到别人看低你是令人非常不安的。

I'm probably gonna get downvoted for saying this (already did on the last comment) but you can't escape this reality of China. The more stupid inept laowai that get into China the more poorly we will be treated by the locals. But the loserish types won't care because it's always better to be in China for them then to be back home. Given the state of this place I think that says a lot.

我这么说可能要被点踩了（上条评论已经有人点踩了），但是你不能逃避中国的这个事实。越多愚蠢、无能的老外到中国，当地人对我们的态度就会越差。但是那些失败者不会在意，因为在中国总是比在他们自己国家要好的。考虑到这里的现状，我觉得那已经道出了很多事情。

Edit: truth hurts I know. if downvoting me makes you feel better keep it going!

编辑：真相总是伤人的，我知道。如果踩我让你能好受一点，那就继续吧！

[–]Aan2007 1 指标 3 天前 
it's more like long-term stay in China trigger mental illnessI was really on verge when I was moving away after years

这更像是在中国的长期停留会引发心理疾病，在中国呆了几年要搬走的时候，我真的已经处在崩溃边缘上了。