【印度】一位男性性侵受害者的自述 [印度媒体]

Thisstory of a male rape survivor will shock you

一位男性性侵受害者的自述

Yes,men get raped too and most of them suffer in silence.

没错，男性也会被强奸，并且大部分人都会选择在沉默中忍受折磨。

Thisheartbreaking post about a man who was raped by his uncle for years as a child willmake you shudder.

来看一看这个帖子，当事人小时候被叔叔性侵数年，看得人难过又震惊：

“My uncle was giving mea bath when I was 6 years old, and that’s when it firsthappened. He forced me to have anal sex with me, multiple times. At that point,I didn’t know what was happening to me, whether it was ok, whether itwas normal. I would enter his house and lie down on the bed, just wanting it toget over as soon as possible. At 10, I began to get gang-raped by his friends,and I would bleed but keep quite…because what if I wasn’t considered ‘man enough’ to not bear pain? My childhood went by having two worlds whereI would not remember the rape until something triggered it off and then I wouldcry endlessly. I would not enter a male washroom because I was scared that Iwould be raped again…I grew up having no self esteem.

“6岁那年，我的叔叔给我洗澡，那事儿就第一次发生了。他逼我让他进行肛交，这样做了许多次。那时我不知道这些事意味着什么，到底应不应该，正不正常。我走进他的房子，躺在床上的时候，心里只想着赶快结束。10岁的时候我开始被他的朋友们轮奸，我流着血却不敢发出声音，大概是因为我担心如果别人觉得我不够‘男人’，不能忍受疼痛会怎么样吧？我经历的童年就像两个世界，我不愿想起我被强奸的事情，而当我被某些事情触动，我会泪流不止。我不想进入男澡堂，因为我害怕再次被强奸。我成长的经历毫无自尊可言。

Itwas when I was 17 or 18 that I began to understand that what had been happeningto me for so many years was wrong–so one day when he came to jump on me, I kicked him and said no.For the first time in 11 years, I said no to being raped. When I told mymother, she was in shock–she asked me why I hadn’t told her. I told her I had given her signs, that I had triedbut she never picked up on it. She said, ‘I never knew suchthings could happen with boys’ and that was the time I realised that boys and men are theforgotten gender. 

等我到了17、18岁的年级，我开始意识到这些年发生在我身上的事情都是不对的……那一天当他扑到我身上的时候，我踹开他说了不。这是我在11年里第一次对强奸说不。当我告诉我母亲的时候，她震惊了，问我为什么不早告诉她。我说我给过她暗示，我试过了但是她没意识到。我母亲说‘我从不知道这种事情也会发生在男孩身上’，那时我意识到，男孩和男人们是个被忽视的群体。

Weget abused, but we have no right to voice it because we’re supposed to be theprotectors. The victims of ‘masculinity’ are men themselves. I have been bullied for many years for mysexual orientation as well, but when I told my story the same classmates wholaughed at me became my biggest strength and helped me to cope with mychildhood. A part of me believed that I’m gay because of theabuse I went through and it devastated me, but I know now that that isn’t true.

我们被虐待，但却没有权利发声，只因为人们认定我们是该保护别人的人。所谓“男子气概”的受害者正是男人自己。我曾因为自己的性取向被取笑了好多年，但当我将自己的故事告诉那个同学后，他成了我走出自己童年最大的支撑。我的一部分觉得是过去的遭遇毁了我，让我变成了同性恋，但我心里知道这不是真的。



Wetried to get some legal help but we realised that there’s no law against childsexual abuse for boys in the country. By the time I was 18, no laws applied tomy case — so there was no justice. That’s when I decided thatI would make the motto of my life to protect other children from sexual abuse.

我们也试过寻求法律援助，但后来我们意识到这个国家并没有针对男童性侵犯的法规。那时我已满18岁，法律不适用，正义无从谈起。从那时起，我就决定将保护儿童远离性侵害作为我一生的目标。

SoI’ve been through 11years of hell but I don’t think the world is a bad place. I thank my bullies, becausethey got me here — where I have the opportunity to touch other’s lives. I believethat hate only destroys the hater, not the hated — so I don’t think I hate myuncle. To me, he doesn’t exist. Infact If I could, I would send a therapist to helphim. I’m not going to spend the rest of my life waiting for him tosuffer– I can never get those 11 years back, but I do have a lifetimeahead of me to protect the rights of children, women or the LGBT community andthat’s the path I’ve proudly chosen.”

因此，虽然我11年间一直身处地狱，但我并不认为这个世界是个坏地方。我也感谢那些欺凌过我的恶人，因为他们我才得以接触到许多人的人生，才有今天的我。我认为仇恨只会毁掉仇恨者，而不是被恨的那个人——所以我不恨我的叔叔。对我来说他根本不存在。其实如果可以的话，我倒愿意送个治疗师去诊治他。我不想用余下的人生等着看他受苦，因为不管怎么做，我那11年都不会回来了。可我却能用剩下的人生去保护儿童、女性和LGBT的权益，我自己也为选择了这条路而感觉到骄傲。

Thepost was originally shared by Humans of Bombay, a photoblog that capturesstories of Mumbai’s residents.

本文最初由Humans of Bombay，一家收集Mumbai居民故事的博文账号发布。

InIndia, rape on males is rarely, if ever, addressed. Sadly, there is no strong legalframework to help male rape survivors.

在印度，男性所遭遇的强奸极少会被处理。悲哀的是至今还没有有效的法律体系可以帮助这些受害者。

Section375 of the Indian Penal Code does not include males as rape survivors. A malesurvivor can only hope to find justice through Section 377, country’s controversial anti-sodomylaw, if he is assaulted by a male attacker.

印度刑法375节内亦没有将男性包括在强奸受害人中。如果是被男性袭击的话，男性受害人只能指望通过377节的反鸡奸法（此法本身也富有争议）来为自己伸张正义。